Tuesday, June 15, 2010

RAINMANTIC

The sun is not in its full glory,
clouds are covering its glow.
It comes out to clear the mess,
and then the clouds pour.

At last that drop gets to come down,
to meet its scorched lover.
And soon they all pour down,
pushing every obstacle to the corner.

The ground is brown, dry and sad,
it looks up, calling out to his temperamental lover.
And one by one parts of it start changing colour.

As I dive under the roof,
to keep myself dry.
I can't help but see with envy
the way the lovers unite.

Wednesday, June 2, 2010

MOM, DAD and KIDS

Multitasking is bad very bad. I always knew. You should always do one thing at a time, was something my Mom told me when I was a kid. I stuck to it. One thing at a time. But not everyone listens to mommy.

Talking of mommy, the other day someone asked me why I could not get lunch from home. And I said that I will have to wake up so early to do that. Then as I was walking back home it struck me that for almost 15 years of her life my mom used to wake up really early to pack delicious lunch for school. Sometimes she would pack sandwiches and I would grumble.

Till the date this thought never crossed me I never thanked her for the effort. I feel really bad. Realisations are bad! So thanks mommy for making every lunch break so much more delicious. Did you have a realisation? Go thank mommy NOW!

Again talking of mommies, I met another one just yesterday. Shared an auto with her. She was a newbie and worried that unlike other children in her society her 11 month old was not learning anything. (I got my PhD when I was 11 months dude!) Well he does not even clap.

So since the child is not learning her hubby dearest (who btw work really really really hard)wants mommy to leave her job and stay at home and look after the kid. She is the mother, the child came from her so its her job. He just gave a sperm right?

Its easy to guess the advise I gave her. Told her hubby darling was equally responsible. But the woman had made up her mind.

When I was giving her all the advise about what she could do she suddenly asked me, "Are you married?"

I smiled at her and said, "This is exactly why I am not married. I can't make the decision you have already made."

A lot of married working mothers have to deal with this at some point in their life. Its really sad how in spite of everything the mother is held responsible for anything that goes wrong with the child. Perhaps most of them are told "You don't need to work look after the kids!" If you have a glaring, grouching ready to pounce on you mother in law then say good bye to mental peace.

Yes babies need their mothers but there is a lot that fathers can do once the child is no longer dependent on the mother for its food.

If fathers were not really required, people would not make such big issue about getting married and then having children. No science says that only married women can have children.

We do give up a big chunk of our identity to give you the pleasure of having a child. So don't shirk off responsibility dads. We choose you to get our babies, we could have chosen someone else and we could if you don't take up responsibility soon.